The Situation is Hopeful
Being a couples counselor brings me joy — to be present while two people take on the important task of getting close to each other. Great potential lies within the contributions you both make to your committed relationship. You offer to each other the reality of each other's life experience, awareness, generosity, and loving-kindness. In so doing, you assist each other to reconnect with the infinite potential you both possess. It is the gift you give each other. I believe that we saw all of this possibility in our partners and it is what attracted us to them in the first place. Over time partners become precious to each other.
A New Perspective on Counseling
Early in a relationship we tend to be on our "best behavior." During this time, we are not trying to hide our selves from each other, nor trick our wonderful partner into a relationship. In that early stage, we simply have not reached the level of trust where we show the places that we have been hurt.
Couples often feel very discouraged when they first come to counseling. My perspective allows me to see that this discouragement is the point where a great amount of trust has been created. Both parties are now showing to each other the distresses they carry and the struggles they have had. I believe virtually all of these distresses have their source outside of the relationship, from long before it began.
I approach the presenting problem not as an obstacle but as a doorway to mutual understanding. I work with the two of you to become great counselors for each other. First, we slow things down as you take turns listening, feeling, talking, and opening your hearts to each other.
Reaching for your Partner
I approach the presenting problem not as an obstacle but as a doorway to mutual understanding. I work with the two of you to become great counselors for each other. First, we slow things down as you take turns listening, feeling, talking, and opening your hearts to each other.
Becoming Better Communicators
You will grow in your understanding of how to better communicate with each other, and, perhaps more importantly, you will gain insight into each other's lives. Problems around communication, sex, money, trust, intimacy, parenting and addiction all become issues around which you come together. The work you do with your partner is some of the most powerful counseling possible. I look forward to working with you and your partner.
It is a perfect place to be! From here, you can begin to reclaim your love.